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| AC/DC: Participating in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships; bisexual. |
| ADULT: Euphemism for pornographic. |
| ALL CULTURES: Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE) |
| AMERICAN CULTURE:Traditional guy-on-top, girl-on-bottom intercourse; "missionary position". |
| ANAL or ANAL SEX: Anal intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture. |
| ANALINGUS: Licking or sucking the anus. |
| ARTS: Euphemism for fetishes. (see CULTURE) |
| B&D or B/D: Bondage and
discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline,
usually done by a “master” to his/her “slave”. (see BONDAGE;
DISCIPLINE; BDSM) |
| BBW: Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their “ideal” weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are. |
| BDSM: A combination of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). A wide range of sexual activities having to do with power. |
| BI: Bisexual: Versatile(see AC/DC) |
| BI-COMFY: Varies from person to person but usually used by a woman to state that she is comfortable being around or with a woman who is BI. A “BI-COMFY” woman may or may not desire to have sex with another woman. She is merely “comfortable” with the idea of playing with another woman but does not wish to label herself as “BI-SEXUAL.” |
| BI-CURIOUS: A person who has little or no experience having sexual relations with a same gendered person but is interested in finding partners to explore that side of his/her sexuality. |
| BI-FRIENDLY: When used in the description of a club, BI-FRIENDLY means that the club is open to bisexuals of both genders. When a woman uses this to describe herself it means she feels no attraction to the same gender but she has no hang-ups that preclude a bit of friendly fooling around when the situation seems to call for it. |
| BISENSUOUS: Individual, generally a lady, who is comfortable with same sex activities, but not aggressively Bi. |
| BISEXUAL, BI: Individual who enjoys both heterosexual and homosexual relationships. |
| BIZARRE: Unusual sexual desires; Way out. |
| BONDAGE, B&D: A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth, or leather straps are used to bind, tie, or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered Dominant and the person being bound is considered submissive. |
| BUGGERY: Anal intercourse. |
| BUKKAKE: A Japanese sexual term that refers to showering a receiver with sperm from one, several or many men. It is always a sperm shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male. |
| CAN ENTERTAIN: Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging. |
| CAN TRAVEL: Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing. |
| CANING: A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood. |
| CELIBATE: Not participating in sexual activities, either by choice or circumstance. |
| CHEATING: Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and or consent. Sometimes referred to as swinging by married men whose wife "does not understand". |
| CLEAN: Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases. |
| CLOSED DOOR: (see CLOSED SWINGING) |
| CLOSED SWINGING: Couples swing in separate rooms, out of view from one another. The rooms are almost always in the same house or motel/hotel. |
| CLOSET SWINGER: A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET) |
| CORRESPONDENCE: Person generally only interested in a letter or photo exchange. |
| COUPLE: In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes; CPL. |
| CPL: Couple. |
| CROSS DRESSING:: Male/female dressing up and enjoying feminine/male clothing.. |
| CUCKOLD: The originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who’s wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition. |
| CULTURE: Distinctive ways in which sexual intercourse may be performed, usually named after the country in which the activity was first recorded or exceptionally popular. Euphemism for Fetish, Arts. |
| CUNNILINGUS:: To kiss, lick, nibble or suck upon the female sex organ. |
| D&D: Drug & Disease free, meaning that a couple/person is is STD free and does not use drugs. |
| DILDO: An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus. |
| DIRECTOR: The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally call a Manager. |
| DISCIPLINE: A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings. |
| DISCREET OR DISCRETION: Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity. |
| DOCILE: Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE). |
| DOMESTIC TRAINING: Submissive obedience to chores of an intimate or humiliating nature, sexually arousing the individual(s). |
| DOMINANT: The sexual partner in control of the willing submissive partner. |
| DOMINATRIX: A female dom; a mistress. |
| DOUBLE PENETRATION: Being penetrated in two orifices at the same time. (usually refers to anal and vaginal, may also include oral) |
| DP: Double Penetration. |
| ENGLISH CULTURE: Excessive whipping; use of canes, handcuffs, etc. during sexual acts (see S & M). |
| ENTERTAIN: (see CAN ENTERTAIN) |
| EUROPEAN STYLE CLUB: One that requires clothing to be removed (sometimes after a certain time of night). |
| EXHIBITIONIST: A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts. |
| F: Female. |
| FELLATIO: Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth. |
| FETISH: Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy as a stimulant. |
| FFM or FMF: Threesome involving two women and one man (see THREESOME) |
| FLAGELLATION: Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking. |
| FMF: A threesome between two women and one man. |
| FFM: A threesome between two women and one man. Sometimes when a person writes FFM instead of MFM they may mean that there is to be sexual play for all 3 but only sexual penetration with one of the women. If you are unclear, you should ask the person you are corresponding with as to what they mean by this arrangement of the letters. |
| FINAL SWAP: Actually trading partners for sexual intercourse. |
| FOUR WAY FOREPLAY: An interaction between two couples where there is lots of touching and caressing between the couples. The ladies may interact, but does not generally involve interaction between the men. |
| FRENCH: Oral-genital sexual activity (see FALLATIO; CUNNILINGUS) |
| FULL SWAP: Also referred to as “HARD SWAP.” It means there is to be sexual penetration for all of those engaging in the group’s activities. |
| FUN AND GAMES: Euphemism for sexual activity. |
| GS: Group Suite a room most often at a club function in a motel/hotel where couples swap partners or are able to play with only their partner even though it's in a group. A.K.A. Orgy Room. |
| GAY: A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian. |
| GBM: Gay Black Male. |
| GENEROUS: Refers to money for sex. Not an acceptable practice in the Lifestyle. |
| GERMAN CULTURE: Erotic acts of stern discipline. |
| GIVING HEAD: Oral sex. |
| GOLDEN SHOWER: See urolagnia and water sports. |
| GREEK: Anal-penile intercourse. |
| GROUP ROOM: Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US as in swing clubs. (see MATROOM). |
| GROUP SEX: Swinging; Social-sexual activity between three or more people. |
| GWM: Gay White Male. |
| HARD CORE: a swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction in assumed and expected. |
| HARD SWINGING: (see FULL SWAP) |
| HEAD: Oral-genital sexual activity; “Giving head”. (see FRENCH CULTURE; FALLATIO; CUNNILINGUS) |
| HEDONIST: Lives for pleasure. |
| HETEROSEXUAL: Sexual attraction only to members of the opposite sex. |
| HOMOSEXUAL: Sexual attraction only to members of the same sex. |
| HORNY: Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure. |
| HUMANIST: Person who believes in human values, potential, self-respect of the individual, personal freedom and human rights. |
| HUNG: Refers to a man with a large penis. |
| HWP: Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight. |
| INDOOR SPORTS: Swinging activities in general. |
| IMPOTENCE: Failure to achieve an erection. |
| INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP: Seeks swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values. Used chiefly in personal ads and letters in answer to personal ads. |
| IR: Interracial. |
| IRL: In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat. |
| ISO: In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female. |
| JACKING OFF: J/O. Using either the right or left hand to stroke the penis in a quick manner resulting in an ejaculation. |
| karma: In the Hindu doctrine, the passage or transmigration of souls from one place to another. According to the Kama-Sutra, sexual-fulfillment was regarded as one way of achieving reincarnation at a higher level of existence, though not as important as leading a virtuous life. |
| LEATHER: A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments. |
| LESBIAN: A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. |
| LTR: Long Term Relationship. |
| M: Male |
| MARITAL AIDS: Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others. |
| MASOCHISM: Sexual satisfaction achieved through the endurance of pain. |
| MASTER: A dominant male, usually formally trained in the arts of B & D and/or S & M. |
| MASTER/SLAVE: Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE) |
| MATROOM /MATTRESS ROOM: Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM). |
| MBC: Married Black Couple. |
| MBiC: Married Bisexual Couple. |
| McGINLEY ROBERT, Ph.D. Founder of The Lifestyle
Organization. The "God Father of Swing". Dr. McGinley
was an aeronautical engineer with a government security clearance when he decided to
answer a "swinger's" advertisement. As it happened, the husband of the couple
was on active duty with the Air Force and his mail was intercepted by military agents.
This lead to an investigation and the subsequent withdrawal of McGinley's clearance. The
fact that the loss of a career might result from a legal sex act between consenting adults
was the catalyst that started Dr. McGinley on a life long quest to end such unjustifiable
acts of discrimination. The Lifestyles Organization began as a small, informal discussion
group that quickly grew to a much larger association of members and regularly scheduled
meetings. Then came Club WideWorld, an on-premise Swing Club. The first national
conference was held in 1973 and since then the annual gathering has grown into the
largest, longest running Lifestyles convention in the world. The TLO! |
| MENAGE A' TRIOS, THREESOME: Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. |
| MFM or MMF: Threesome involving two men and one woman (see THREESOME) |
| MIXED COUPLE: Of different nationalities. |
| MORESOMES: More than three people in a swinging interaction. |
| MWC: Married White Couple. |
| NASCA: The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines, based in California to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become, to give a national voice to the growing swinging community and to promote the development of ethical swing clubs everywhere. An excellent organization. |
| NEWBIES: New people in swinging; First-timers. (Not a bad thing.) |
| NEWCOMERS: Same as Newbies. ( Not a bad thing.) New people in swinging; First-timers. |
| NONSMOKER: Does not smoke! If used in a personal ad it generally means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes. |
| NON-SWAP: No final exchange of sexual partners for intercourse, however masturbation and other non-coital activities between couples generally are accepted. |
| NOVICE: Beginner/inexperienced. |
| OFF-PREMISE: A swing club event that most often is held in a motel/hotel. No actual swinging takes place at the dance as in the ballroom. You meet at the dance and make your own arrangements. From there you can go to your room or theirs if you have one booked. Most off-premise clubs host hospitality and group suites after the dance RIGHT THERE IN THE MOTEL/HOTEL.. At most off-premise clubs you are able to leave to go play in your room and come back to the dance and do it all again. Great for newcomers as well as the veterans of the swinging Lifestyle. |
| ON PREMISE:"Open" or "closed" areas for swinging are available at the location. Many times these are simply small unorganized house parties. In large cities legitimate large elegant clubs do function in On Premise settings. |
| OPEN SWINGING: A couple or couples swinging with another couple in the same room or bed. |
| ORGY: Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex. |
| P/P: Photo and phone number (used in personal ads). |
| PARTY: Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging. |
| PARTY CLOTHES: Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear.Includes clothes to wear to the party and to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wraps, andother simple clothes that are easily removed, shows the wearer to bestadvantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily availablefor erotic courting and foreplay. |
| PARTY HOUSE: (Western US ) A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. |
| PASSIVE: Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE) |
| POLYAMORY: A love relationship involving more than 2 people. |
| PRO: Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escort. |
| RECREATIONAL SWINGER: A person who practices swinging as a recreational diversion with no desire at all for an emotional attachment and does not generally even want to know your name. |
| RESTRAINT AND PLEASURE (R&P): Mild bondage used in a sexual fantasy enactment. |
| ROMAN CULTURE: Orgies; many people doing many things in the same place at the same time. Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc. |
| RUBBER: Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D. |
| S & M: Sadism-masochism, giving or receiving pain. |
| SAFE: Surgically sterile. |
| SCAT: Refers to the use of excrament/fecal matter. |
| SOCIAL: A party; dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging Per se at a social but privately arranged swinging may follow. |
| SODOMY: Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner. |
| SOFT SWINGING: A social, erotic swing environment where sexual activity is common and available, but not required nor assumed. Sometimes used to describe same room swapping up to, but not including intercourse. Couples that only have intercourse with their own partner. |
| S.T.D/S.T.I: Sexually transmitted diseases or Sexually transmitted infection. |
| STRAIGHT, STR: Non-swinger; A swinger who is not interested in same sex sexual activity; A person who does not use drugs; A person who is not bi sexual, gay or lesbian. |
| SWAPPING: Two couples or more that exchanging partners for sexual activity (can be same room or separate rooms). |
| SWEDISH CULTURE: The exclusive and talented use of the hands to stimulate sexual arousal; masturbation. |
| SWING CLUB: A swingers club, generally with private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on and/or off premise swing parties. Many also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee. Party attendance may be restricted to couples. |
| SWINGING LIFESTYLE: Style of living with swinging as a major component in the choice of friends, business, social life, and intimate relationships. |
| SWINGING: Social-Sexual Relational Recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and single women sometimes are involved. An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners. It maybe any combination of men and women. |
| TAN: Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus. (AIDS) |
| THREESOME: Three people having sex, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Could be any combination. (see Menage a Trois) |
| TICKET: A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the man to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention of swinging or is not free to swing. She may be Pro. (see pro) |
| TOYS: Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of oneself and/or on others. Any and all Marital Aids. |
| TRANSGENDERED: Individual who does not identify with his/her biologically assigned sex. Not related to sexual orientation. |
| TRANSSEXUAL: Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion. |
| TRANSVESTITE: A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual. |
| TRIAD: Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome. |
| TRIOLISM: Used in personal ads to indicate desire for “threesomes”. This is a common to some but a confusing usage. |
| TUBAL LIGATION: Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation. |
| UROLGNIA: The art of urinating on another person to produce sexual gratification in one or both partners. |
| UTOPIAN SWINGER: One who practices swinging as a total lifestyle. |
| VANILLA: Typically refers to non-swingers. (ie. “vanilla friends”) |
| VASECTOMY: Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male. |
| VERSATILE: Bisexual. |
| VOYEURISM: A sexual fetish for watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity. |
| Water sports: A fetish which involves one partner urinating on another. |