Thoughts and observations
When we say new couples for simplicity we will include single women in the group of
"new couples." We aren't necessarily speaking of a "new couple" to
swinging we are talking about a new couple to L'Sota.
L'Sota, ladies and gentleman, is a true "swing club," you may ask, what does
that mean? What that means is that if in fact you truly desire to meet other couples that
desire to "swing" as in swap partners get naked and enjoy, you are certainly
able to do that at L'Sota.
What we have discovered over the past 20 plus years, yes, we started swinging long ago.
Dave begain when he was 21 and I Dena was 19 when I started my swing journey. I'm now 41
and Dave is pushing the big 50! OK, he's been swinging longer then what I have been but
that's OK. If it wasn't for Dave I doubt I would have gotten involved in swinging and the
Lifestyle. I didn't even know what swinging and swapping partners was, that is another
story which can be found on the advanced pages under hosts, now back on track.
I won't pull any punches here. There are many couples that do the Meet & Greets which
are wonderful if you desire to make "friends," drink, raise hell and then maybe
just maybe get laid. I don't know about you but I did all of the bar thing I cared to do
back in high school and during my collage days. I would hope that I have grown well out of
the Tee-Hee stage of my life.
As a mature woman with a career, yes, Dave and I both work 40-50-60 hours a week and have
for many years, I find that my free time is my time or our fun time together. No house
work, no kids as our kids are well out of the nest and on their own etc. You may be able
to relate.
Don't you ever just wish and maybe you already do that you could frequent a location that
is safe where everyone there is actually a "swinger"? Maybe do a little bit of
chat and a little dancing then walk down the hall to a private secure hospitality and
Group Suite, get naked with other like minded couples and have sex with a few orgasms with
no strings? Have sex with one, two, three or more others? That you can actually be who you
actually are without being intoxicated or out to impress someone?
L'Sota does not hold functions in bars, you don't have to drink to excess or at all for
that matter to have a sexsational time and you don't have to be one of the "in"
couples. No tattoos or piercing are required, if you have those cool but certainly not
required to "fit in." You don't even have to be a size 2-4-6-8-or-18, no boob
jobs are required. You don't have to be cutezy online, in chat rooms or on forums to get
attention, hell, you don't even have to own a Harley or a Moped. All you have to be is
simply yourself at L'Sota.
Now, just because you are a member of L'Sota or come to a Dance Blast doesn't mean you
must have sex. What it does mean is that you are honestly truly seeking something other
then a bar room "rush" or to be observed with the "swingers".....Gee,
you might even honestly desire to have sex. As swingers, is that not a novel idea? OK, I'm
being factious!
What we have also discovered in the last 18 plus years is that there are couples out there
that really have jobs, career's as well as families that when they are away from families,
kids and work they truly desire to discreetly play, have sex. Taking their spouse, friend
or significant other out one or two nights a month and let their hair down, once again
discreetly. Not by drinking or using drugs or being a total smart ass but to indulge in
fulfilling relaxing orgasmic sex! It's really that simple.
It seems as though some really do want the world to know on some online sites that they
drank a case of beer, a fifth of Whisky and acted like they were 18 again by tearing up a
motel room, passing out or "flashing". Oh boy, that sounds exactly what I want
to do on a Saturday night....NOT!
Some of us actually make quality time for our families, including our spouses/significant
others, sports and many other things that many of us are into. Some of us bring work home
from the office, clean our homes, are involved with more then our computers
"chatting" to others. Now there is nothing wrong with that if that is your
thing.
What I'm saying is that there are those of us that are in fact discreet, real everyday
down to earth responsible people that simply enjoy casual non-monogamous sex. We don't
have the time to wine and dine you, meet your kids, take vacations together or talk with
you on the phone daily, weekly or even monthly. When we see you at a L'Sota function we
are happy as hell to see you, talk with you, play with you etc.
Don't get us wrong, we are always here for you and we're just a phone call away should you ever have a question about the club, swinging, swapping or sex. If we don't have the answer(s) we will research it and get back with you. We are always more then happy to help you anyway that we can.
We are finding more and more mature couples are
tired of the "games" and when I say mature I'm saying mature not as in
age..........well really that too but I'm saying in the quality of their sex as in
"swinging." Understanding that it really is 100% OK to have sex with others then
your husband, wife or significant other. Some already simply swing with their
"friend" as they don't have a spouse or significant other, they have already
figured this out.
Many couples have had it with meeting online, going out to a bar talking for hours only to
learn that "sorry sparky it ain't happening tonight." The reasons range from
"it ain't ever going to happen because we really don't swap" to "we want to
get to know you well first". Like, how are they going to get to know you? Dog you for
the next 3 months? Call and or e-mail you daily, come over to your house for a few
dinners? Look in your closets? Check your tax return? Maybe go to the movies? If I wanted
to "date" hell, I wouldn't have married....OK, that may be a stretch.
Many couples when they are not working or sleeping enjoy doing dinner just as a couple,
going out to the theatre or to the symphony, playing golf, fishing, etc., without an
entourage. Maybe going to a race, doing a weekend get a way as a couple or boating as a
couple, bowling, swimming as a couple. You fill in the blank, what ever it is you do as a
couple. Then when you desire to "party" swing and play you do THAT with that
special someone and others. Again, I'm well past the "dating" thing. If you are
also, then that is another reason why L'Sota is the club for you.
We as well as other L'Sota members aren't going
to chase you to play with you. Hell, like yourself we have a life with many many other
interests then just sex but sex of course rates right up there. We aren't going to e-mail
you, call you and talk about the weather or who said what about whom or bother you. We'll
see you at the club. That is pretty simple.
If you enjoy very secure and clean settings where respect and discretion is the rule,
where you don't have to worry about someone running off and joining the circus with your
partner, if you're truly seeking nice sexy clean people of all shapes ages and sizes,
L'Sota may just be what you're looking for.
There are some swing site forums that read like a Soup Opera! Drama, Drama and more Drama.
Someone seems to always be pissed at someone or one group is upset at another. The o'l
"he said-she said" thing and the rumor mills are always active.....really, does
anyone care? What does that have to do with pure enjoyable hedonistic sex?
Rumors? Remember, if they talk with you behind
someones back, maybe, no, it's more then likely, you'll be their target of a rumor. Most
certainly sooner or later they WILL talk behind your back(s)! Yes, even in the Lifestyle
unfortunately that happens. Again, simply look at the maturity level and consider the
source. Why talk bull-shit, get naked and enjoy, leave the drama behind.
It seems as though some desire to make swinging, sex and swapping a big production.
Really, it's very enjoyable, sensual, fulfilling and simple if you deduct all the
"crap" and Drama from it.
Swinging is one of those things that seems to be full of experts. By now most all of us
are familiar with Malcolm Gladwell's book and proposition that it takes 10,000 hours of
practice to become an expert at something. Now the cool thing about swinging and swapping
is that for most of us we have had sex. For some it's already been and will be many many
partners for others not that many.
If in fact Gladwell is correct then just how many true experts are there in swinging?
10,000 hours of logged bed time with others? 10,000 hours at swing clubs? 10,000 hours of
being online talking and typing about it?
How we each have sex is something that is of personal preference. Some are hedonistic,
open, free with very high sex drives, we call that a high libido. Others are not that
sexual, they may think that they are but are they really? Only they can answer that.
The bottom line here is this. If you're a couple or single female that's ready to meet
others that are truly interested in sexually pleasing you and you them L'Sota may be for
you. If you enjoy mingling as well as dancing in a "free spirit" setting, if you
have your relationship and sexuality together as a couple or single female then L'Sota is
your place to be.
Questions? Simply call or e-mail us direct at
(319) 329-3306.
WE DON'T WANT TO PARTY WITHOUT YOU!