The first dance you attend as a sponsored single male member your sponsoring couple must be in attendence. After your first Dance Blast it is not a requirement that your sponsoring couple attend that Dance Blast.

Here are the steps necessary to become a sponsored single male member; 1) You must be 21 years of age or older. 2) You must obtain a sponsoring member couple. 3) That couple must be a current member couple of L'Sota and the couple must have been a member couple of L'Sota for no less then 3 months prior to you being sponsored by that couple. 4) Your sponsoring couple must a member of L'Sota AND be in good standings with L'Sota. 5) You must request that your sponsoring couple call L'Sota to advise they are willing to sponsor you. 6) They (your sponsoring couple) must provide when they call L'Sota your full name, date of birth as well as the fact they desire to be your sponsoring couple. 7) After that YOU must e-mail L'Sota stating that you desire to become a sponsored single male member including the name of your sponsoring couple with your full name, date of birth as well as a phone number where we may contact you.

You shall then be contacted by L'Sota per instructions on what to do next. In the event L'Sota has acquired at that time simply to many requests to become a sponsored single male member you shall be advised of that fact. Your request for membership shall be placed upon a waiting list if you so desire to have that occur.

Registration to attend any L'Sota Dance Blast Social as a sponsored single male member is very limited and is not guaranteed once you become a sponsored single male member.  In other words, to attend a L'Sota Dance Blast you must be one of the first sponsored single male members to register. The numbers of sponsored single male members permitted to attend any Dance Blast shall be restricted to a certain number of sponsored single males per the number of couples that are registered per any Dance Blast.

L'Sota shall restrict the maximum number of sponsored single male member males at each L'Sota dance. This figure is adjustable based on couples as well as to the number of single females that have registered to attend a particular dance. In no event are you as a sponsored single male member guaranteed to be admitted UNLESS you are one of the first to register and pay for your dance package and of course you are a member in good standings.

If you are paid and registered for a particular dance and fail to make the orientation, you shall not be admitted to attend the dance or enter the hospitality suite. No refunds or credits shall be issued; therefore, it is imperative that if you are a new sponsored single male member that is registered and that has paid to attend your first dance, that you make the orientation.

Make no mistake, as a single male member, just as it is for all others that attend a L’Sota dance, if a single male bothers any couple or single female they are OUT! Out of the dance and off of the property! One complaint, that is all that it takes. This is true for couples, males of a couple, females of a couple and single females....anyone!

L’Sota is a no tolerance of pressure club! If any club member, single or a couple, is asked to leave no refunds or credits shall be issued. A benefit of being a sonsored single male member of L’Sota is that you as that single male member are able to bring a female partner along at no additional cost or donation. All that is required is that the female partner that you would bring completes the L’Sota application as well as attends the pre-dance orientation prior to being admitted to the dance.

Once you and your female partner are confirmed as a couple, you as a couple are then able to attend all L’Sota functions as a couple. Your yearly sponsored single male membership covers you as a sponsored single male or a couple.

Your Dance Blast Social donation is NOT included in your membership after you attend your first Dance Blast. We thank you for your interest in L'Sota. If you have any ideas or suggestions please let us hear from you.

SINGLE MALE FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Q: Can I find a single female partner at L’Sota?

A: Extremely doubtful. In all honesty, the single females that attend are most often bi-sexual, meaning they are seeking other females and maybe couples. Of course for them to dance with you is a very good possibility

Q: I’m a married male but my wife won’t swing. Am I able to join L’Sota?

A: Sure, once you have brought your wife to orientation and she tells us that she has no problem with you attending the dances without her. See, what so oftentimes occurs is that many married males or those with a partner desire to party with other males’ female partner(s), but they don’t desire other males to party and indulge with their wife or female partner. It most certainly can be a jealousy thing on there part. Many will say "she won't attend a function" or "she is not into swinging" etc. Come on, in all honesty what she is going to do is attend a dance, meet some great people socialize and dance. What woman wouldn't enjoy doing that? If a male approaches his wife of partner correct as well as respectfully there is a 90% chance she will attend.

Q: I’m married (or a male involved with a female). We as a couple want to find a single female to join us. My wife/partner has no desire to be with another male. We only want another female so she can try a bi-sexual experience. Can we find an extra female?

A: Have you ever tried fishing in the middle of an Interstate? Anything is possible. It would not be likely, but who knows? To be totally honest, if you truly desire to make points with your female partner, discover if she would like to try you and another male. We’re not talking a bi-sexual male thing but a male that can help you bring her to heights of new hedonistic pleasures. Think of it this way, as much as you desire two women, most women, whether or not they openly admit it, would at least once enjoy two men.

Q: I am a bi sexual single male, would I be welcome at L'Sota?

A: Certainly. The only issue would in all due respect for couples as well as single females that you indicate to them if and before you actually "hook up" to advise them that you are in fact a bi sexual male. This provides them the opportunity to say "yes" or "no". There are couples as well as single females that have no desire to swing with a bi male or a bi male of a couple. On the other hand there are those that it makes no difference and then those that desire it that way. There are many reasons for their reasoning, we won't go into that here.

Q: I am a single male. I can’t find a female partner to attend, what can I do?

A: Trust me, there are many, many women that would love to attend that are single but they don’t want to attend by themselves. First you must know what you’re talking about when you speak to a prospective female partner about the alternative adult lifestyle. How can you speak intellectually about a topic you yourself are unfamiliar with? Read the entire L’Sota web site, read other web sites, go to the L’Sota "link" page and check out Patti Thomas’ book Patti Thomas's "Recreational Sex", www.pattithomas.com as it provides great information over the Alternative Adult Lifestyle. If you can’t find a single female to attend, then obviously you are not trying to find a female partner or maybe you simply do not desire to share your partner? All of us that attend as couples obviously have a partner or partners, so why can’t you? Try personal ads, ask those that you know or date. It’s much easier than you think. You must know whom to ask, when to ask and how to approach the subject. All you and she are actually doing is attending a dance. You may be surprised, she may actually enjoy it as much or maybe more then what you will.

Q: Why are single males most often not allowed at other clubs?

A: Some clubs allow single males other clubs don't. Each club has it's own policy. There are males of couples within the Lifestyle that feel the "competition" presented by single males is too much to handle for them. So why do couples care if a club allows single males or not? Other males of couples think and worry that the single male will tell and brag about attending. How do you know a male or for that matter a female of a couple won't do the same thing? Still another male of a couple stated that "swinging and the alternative adult lifestyle is a couple’s only thing." Everyone is of course entitled to their own opinion, and opinions are just that.

Q: So what you’re saying is that as a single male I shouldn’t approach a couple or the female of a couple to play?

A: That is correct. If they are interested in you then they (or she) will approach you. When you attend a L'Sota dance, you would be seated at a table at the dance with couples. You would socialize just like you would at your company party, or a block party. If you’re truly a genuinely nice and respectful male you’ll get along just fine. You’ll meet many great couples as well as possibly few single females. What adult couples and adult singles do is of course their business. Some couples truly enjoy a single male joining them, others have no desire in single males. The best approach for an example; to dancing with a female of a couple would be to ask the male of the couple if you may dance with his female partner. He may say, "Sure, it’s up to her." This is most often what occurs. He/she may also tell you to go fuck yourself.........WOWSA, let's hope not. In all honestly, it's all about respect. Treat others as you desire to be treated that being with respect.

Q: So as I dance with this female, I can then feel her ass and her body?

A: That is a great way to be shown the door! No you can’t! Would you want your mother to be treated like that? Proper etiquette would always be to ask, "May I place my hand on your butt?" Something like that. Just because a female would dance with you DOES NOT MEAN YOU CAN FEEL HER UP! This not only applies to single males but all males, and the same is true for a female that would want to feel up a male. It’s all about total and unconditional R E S P E C T ! Respect for yourself, as well as respect for all those in attendance and that is part of the alternative adult lifestyle.

Q: I am a divorced male, clean, respectful, nice looking guy, truly a nice guy. I would like to attend to meet others that are also clean and respectful. I know that it’s not a "meat market." Would I be welcomed?

A: Yes! If more males were like you the "stigma" of single males wouldn’t be what it is today with our lifestyle. No matter what, there shall always be a few insecure males of couples that don’t have a problem with single females in the lifestyle but that do with single males. There is not much that anyone can do for those few. That is just the way it is.

The above are just a few of the many questions that L’Sota has addressed over the past close to twenty years. If you have questions, feel free to contact L’Sota at 319-329-3306. Feel free to leave a message if we are unavailable and we shall get back with you. You may also e-mail us.